Friday, January 29, 2010
My favorite chapter in the book had to be Sweetheart of the Song Tra Bong. It was my favorite because to me it was the most unusual out of all the other stories. Mark Fossie somehow managed to get his girl to Nam and when she arrived she was immediately taken back by everything. She was in awe because of the new sights she saw, the new scents she smelled and simply how different it was from what she was use to. This book doesnt really change my opinion on the impact of tragic loss. War or no war its still a tragedy and in most cases its still going to effect the people close to whoever lost their lives in the tragedy. Seeing that its war the post effects might be a little different. But war or no war they mostly are gonna feel the pain, deep inside to. Struggling to get over the person is going to be hard. One of the hardest things to do in my opinion. But thats ok its natural. Its not suppose to be easy. This person was close to you one of the closest. They have been there with you through the good and the bad. You hold a bond together that you hold with no one else. You can talk about or share anything with this person, they understand you and arent going to pass judgments. All of those things are reasons why it is so hard to get over the tragic loss of someone close. You are so use to them being active in your life, your use to them being there and then all of a sudden they are gone. Not gone and coming back later but gone for good. You try to play it over in your head and you just cant believe it. You start thinking if there was anything you could of done to prevent it. Your mind starts racing and playing different scenarios over and over and then you just fall into a hole and crumble because through all of your thinking the cold hard fact will hit you. They are gone for good. They are never coming back and all you have left is memories. You dont know what your going to do without the person. You start to freak out and it all starts over again. Playing the scenarios over and over in your head. Wondering if you could of done anything to prevent it. Its going to be hard, its suppose to be hard to get over it. The only way to get past it in my experience is to simply give it time. Dont rush it. Mourn for as long as you need to. Mourn until you have made peace with what has happened and yourself. It is then you will be able to start moving ahead and getting on with your life.